By my age I’ve learned two key relationship skills, the “I Statement” and otherwise avoiding “you”, that I try to use as much as possible.
The “I Statement” simply goes like this: “When you do/say __________, I feel _________.” We’re all entitled to our emotions and expressing them. This is a way to express feelings without provoking the other person or escalating matters.
Other than in an “I Statement”, try to avoid using the word, “you”, unless it’s a compliment. Otherwise it may very likely put the person you’re speaking to on the offensive. It’s just human nature.
I’ve found these two skills effective at creating peace, love, and harmony in relationships whether they be intimate, family, friends, or co-workers.
I’ve been using these for years and have had some success, but still have a ways to go (especially given my challenges). They take time to implement, so have patience and keep trying.
Lolita the orca was captured off the coast of Washington state at a young age and has been enslaved and imprisoned in a tiny tank at Miami Seaquarium and forced to perform unnatural stunts for food for 40+ years. Meanwhile her family pod is still swimming together in the ocean and her Mom still calls out to her and she still calls out to her Mom after 40+ years. In the wild orcas swim 100+ miles per day in close knit family units. Orca’s brains have advanced capacity to communicate and love. It’s time to retire Lolita first to a sea pen and then the wild ocean to live out her natural life with her family.
2016/11/01 Update: I like the ideology of this party, but think the process of forming a 3rd party takes way too long, climate change can’t wait, it’d be quicker to run as an Independent, and it’s cool that they say they’ll endorse any candidate who takes their oath.
I had fun going to Meetup events with my friend, Eddie. First we went to “Learn How To Compost” by Lee Dwyer of Groundwork Somerville at Somerville Community Growing Center where we learned about indoor & outdoor composting with about twenty other gardeners. I’ve kept an outdoor compost pile since 1991 and learned from my Dad who composted grass clippings, weeds, leaves, and fruit and vegetable scraps. Then we went to Whole Foods and bought some raw fresh figs which were very delicious! Next we went to Boston University’s Marsh Chapel for a “Vegan Standout” with MARC, the “Barnyard Trio”, and about twenty vegans. The events were posted on Boston Raw Food Meetup and Boston Vegan Meetup.
The Corporation is an epic in length and breadth documentary which aims at nothing less than a full-scale portrait of the most dominant institution on the planet Earth in our lifetime–a phenomenon all the more remarkable, if not downright frightening, when you consider that the corporation as we know it has been around for only about 150 years. It used to be that corporations were, by definition, short-lived and finite in agenda. If a town needed a bridge built, a corporation was set up to finance and complete the project; when the bridge was an accomplished fact, the corporation ceased to be. Then came the 19th-century robber barons, and the courts were prevailed upon to define corporations not as get-the-job-done mechanisms but as personsunder the 14th Amendment with full civil rights to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness (i.e., power and profit)–ad infinitum.
The Corporation defines this endlessly mutating life-form in exhaustive detail, measuring the many ways it has not only come to dominate but to deform our reality. The movie performs a running psychoanalysis of this entity with the characteristics of a prototypical psychopath: a callous unconcern for the feelings and safety of others, an incapacity to experience guilt, an ingrained habit of lying for profit, etc. We are swept away on a demented odyssey through an altered cosmos, in which artificial chemicals are created for profit and incidentally contribute to a cancer epidemic; in which the folks who brought us Agent Orange devise a milk-increasing drug for a world in which there is already a glut of milk; in which an American computer company leased its systems to the Nazis–and serviced them on a monthly basis–so that the Holocaust could go forward as an orderly process.
The movie goes on too long, circles too many points obsessively and redundantly, and risks preaching-to-the-choir reductiveness by calling on the usual talking-head suspects–Noam Chomsky, Howard Zinn, Michael Moore. And except for an endlessly receding tracking shot in an infinite patents archive, there’s scarcely an image worth recalling. Still, it maps the new reality. This is our world–welcome to it. –Richard T. Jameson”
Some corporations seem to be “evil”. lol! Their bottom line is money! … not people, life, or love! I would advise that when dealing with corporations to make sure to read the fine print, but the thing is … it seems like they can change the fine print when ever they want to! lol! … In fact, it might be somewhere in the really fine print underneath the fine print that they can change their rules whenever they want. lol! Be honest. Do you read fine print? Being dyslexic, I’ve had a few interesting and perhaps comical experiences with “evil” corporations which I might add to this post soon.
I am very passionate about mothering and believe parenting is the most important “job” there is. I always wanted to be a mom and had great examples from my Mom who had seven children and paternal Grandmother who had six children and both stayed home to raise them. I babysat two boys for ten years (1969-1979) the last five summers of which were full time from 9am to 5pm Monday through Friday, worked as an assistant teacher in a daycare for a few years (1977-1979), and studied early-childhood education in college. While those experiences made me feel accomplished, they paled by comparison to pregnancy, childbirth, and being a full time 24 hours a day 365 days a year attachment style mom with deeply bonded love for my child. Attachment parenting helped me be highly intuitive, natural, calm, focused, and effective in my mothering. I was faced with huge challenges yet I still managed to keep bonding. I will share some of the books which helped me mother with ease. I have worked with school students since 1991 to present, taught religious education (1994-1996), have been a foster-parent, and use information from these books on a regular basis.