Family

I am very passionate about mothering and believe parenting is the most important “job” there is. I always wanted to be a mom and had great examples from my Mom who had seven children and paternal Grandmother who had six children and both stayed home to raise them. I babysat two boys for ten years (1969-1979) the last five summers of which were full time from 9am to 5pm Monday through Friday, worked as an assistant teacher in a daycare for a few years (1977-1979), and studied early-childhood education in college. While those experiences made me feel accomplished, they paled by comparison to pregnancy, childbirth, and being a full time 24 hours a day 365 days a year attachment style mom with deeply bonded love for my child. Attachment parenting helped me be very intuitive, natural, calm, focused, and effective in my mothering. I was faced with huge challenges yet I still managed to keep bonding. I will share some of the books which helped me mother with ease. I have worked with school students since 1991 to present, taught religious education (1994-1996), been a foster-parent, and used information from these books on a regular basis.

My favorite parenting book, Magical Child by Joseph Chilton Pearce, explains in detail how intelligence develops in humans and what practices to use and avoid. The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding by Diane Wiessinger, Diana West, and Teresa Pitman, supports and explains in detail the lost art of breastfeeding. The Family Bed by Tine Thevenin, explains how to peacefully and lovingly share sleep. Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka, tells how to lovingly raise spirited children. Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children by Thomas Gordon, helps create family peace and harmony and effective discipline with the use of “I Statements” that work for all interpersonal relationships. Primal Mothering in a Modern World by Hygeia Halfmoon, describes intuitive mothering. Children Learn What They Live explains how parental attitudes affect children.ย  Raw Family by Victoria Boutenko tells how she and her husband Igor, son Sergei, and daughter Valya improved their health dramatically. I hope you enjoy these books and happy parenting. :) I recommend reading them before conceiving your child.

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Parenting

I am very passionate about mothering and believe parenting is the most important “job” there is. I always wanted to be a mom and had great examples from my Mom who had seven children and paternal Grandmother who had six children and both stayed home to raise them. I babysat two boys for ten years (1969-1979) the last five summers of which were full time from 9am to 5pm Monday through Friday, worked as an assistant teacher in a daycare for a few years (1977-1979),ย  and studied early-childhood education in college. While those experiences made me feel accomplished, they paled by comparison to pregnancy, childbirth, and being a full time 24 hours a day 365 days a year attachment style mom with deeply bonded love for my child. Attachment parenting helped me be highly intuitive, natural, calm, focused, and effective in my mothering. I was faced with huge challenges yet I still managed to keep bonding. I will share some of the books which helped me mother with ease. I have worked with school students since 1991 to present, taught religious education (1994-1996), have been a foster-parent, and use information from these books on a regular basis.

My favorite parenting book, Magical Child by Joseph Chilton Pearce, is primarily about how intelligence develops in humans and I found it fascinating and it deeply affected my parenting philosophy and practice. I also love the books, The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding by Diane Wiessinger, Diana West, and Teresa Pitman, The Family Bed by Tine Thevenin, Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka, Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children by Thomas Gordon, Primal Mothering in a Modern World by Hygeia Halfmoon, and Children Learn What They Live. I hope you enjoy these books and happy parenting. :) I recommend reading them before conceiving your child.

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Grief

Information is a key to recovery from any challenge. I know from personal loss that grief can sometimes feel overwhelming, so I have pasted valuable information below about the stages of grief in the hopes that it will help you in your time of need as it has helped me.
http://www.recover-from-grief.com/7-stages-of-grief.html

7 STAGES OF GRIEF:

1. SHOCK & DENIAL- You will probably react to learning of the loss with numbed disbelief. You may deny the reality of the loss at some level, in order to avoid the pain. Shock provides emotional protection from being overwhelmed all at once. This may last for weeks.

2. PAIN & GUILT- As the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable pain. Although excruciating and almost unbearable, it is important that you experience the pain fully, and not hide it, avoid it or escape from it with alcohol or drugs. You may have guilty feelings or remorse over things you did or didn’t do with your loved one. Life feels chaotic and scary during this phase.

3. ANGER & BARGAINING- Frustration gives way to anger, and you may lash out and lay unwarranted blame for the death on someone else. Please try to control this, as permanent damage to your relationships may result. This is a time for the release of bottled up emotion. You may rail against fate, questioning “Why me?” You may also try to bargain in vain with the powers that be for a way out of your despair (“I will never drink again if you just bring him back”)

4. “DEPRESSION”, REFLECTION, LONELINESS- Just when your friends may think you should be getting on with your life, a long period of sad reflection will likely overtake you. This is a normal stage of grief, so do not be “talked out of it” by well-meaning outsiders. Encouragement from others is not helpful to you during this stage of grieving. During this time, you finally realize the true magnitude of your loss, and it depresses you. You may isolate yourself on purpose, reflect on things you did with your lost one, and focus on memories of the past. You may sense feelings of emptiness or despair.

5. THE UPWARD TURN- As you start to adjust to life without your dear one, your life becomes a little calmer and more organized. Your physical symptoms lessen, and your “depression” begins to lift slightly.

6. RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH- As you become more functional, your mind starts working again, and you will find yourself seeking realistic solutions to problems posed by life without your loved one. You will start to work on practical and financial problems and reconstructing yourself and your life without him or her.

7. ACCEPTANCE & HOPE- During this, the last of the seven stages in this grief model, you learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation. Acceptance does not necessarily mean instant happiness. Given the pain and turmoil you have experienced, you can never return to the carefree, untroubled YOU that existed before this tragedy. But you will find a way forward. You will start to look forward and actually plan things for the future. Eventually, you will be able to think about your lost loved one without pain; sadness, yes, but the wrenching pain will be gone. You will once again anticipate some good times to come, and yes, even find joy again in the experience of living.

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