By my age I’ve learned two key relationship skills, the “I Statement” and otherwise avoiding “you”, that I try to use as much as possible.
The “I Statement” simply goes like this: “When you do/say __________, I feel _________.” We’re all entitled to our emotions and expressing them. This is a way to express feelings without provoking the other person or escalating matters.
Other than in an “I Statement”, try to avoid using the word, “you”, unless it’s a compliment. Otherwise it may very likely put the person you’re speaking to on the offensive. It’s just human nature.
I’ve found these two skills effective at creating peace, love, and harmony in relationships whether they be intimate, family, friends, or co-workers.
I’ve been using these for years and have had some success, but still have a ways to go (especially given my challenges). They take time to implement, so have patience and keep trying.
Lolita the orca was captured off the coast of Washington state at a young age and has been enslaved and imprisoned in a tiny tank at Miami Seaquarium and forced to perform unnatural stunts for food for 40+ years. Meanwhile her family pod is still swimming together in the ocean and her Mom still calls out to her and she still calls out to her Mom after 40+ years. In the wild orcas swim 100+ miles per day in close knit family units. Orca’s brains have advanced capacity to communicate and love. It’s time to retire Lolita first to a sea pen and then the wild ocean to live out her natural life with her family.
2016/11/01 Update: I like the ideology of this party, but think the process of forming a 3rd party takes way too long, climate change can’t wait, it’d be quicker to run as an Independent, and it’s cool that they say they’ll endorse any candidate who takes their oath.
I went with my friend, George Sommers, author of I SAW WILD PARROTS IN NEW YORK CITY!, Yellow Bird, and Papita to The Parrot Society of New England’s “Spring Is In The Air” Bird Behavior and Toy Rehab Seminar in Manchester, NH. The workshop by Robin Shewokis and Concetta DellaRocco Ferragamo included parrot care, training, Q&A, and a mock training session I was volunteered into as the “trainer” of another woman as the “parrot”. In attendance were many beautiful parrots and people including the talented artist, Jill Casteel, with her beautiful artwork. I took a few photos with my camera until the battery died and more with my cell phone which I will “upload” later. The macaw below would fluff it’s wings every time I said, “You’re so pretty.” Afterwards we watched a fun DVD that came with the book, Snowball The Dancing Cockatoo, on his portable DVD player on the lawn while Yellow Bird and Papita chirped contentedly together in their love nest.
Apparently the natural habitat of these lovely exotic animals and their human friends is being rapidly destroyed by “Big-Agri-Biz” to graze cattle which seems an inefficient, uneconomical, and unsustainable use of natural resources because the Amazon Rainforest produces most of the oxygen we need and fruits, veggies, and seeds contain all the nutrients we need including carbohydrates, essential amino acids, essential fatty acids, vitamins, minerals, antioxidants (prevent and reverse cancer), fiber, enzymes, and phyto-nutrients to build natural wellness and prevent costly health care crisis. See Earth and AURAw.com. Thank you.
I had fun going to Meetup events with my friend, Eddie. First we went to “Learn How To Compost” by Lee Dwyer of Groundwork Somerville at Somerville Community Growing Center where we learned about indoor & outdoor composting with about twenty other gardeners. I’ve kept an outdoor compost pile since 1991 and learned from my Dad who composted grass clippings, weeds, leaves, and fruit and vegetable scraps. Then we went to Whole Foods and bought some raw fresh figs which were very delicious! Next we went to Boston University’s Marsh Chapel for a “Vegan Standout” with MARC, the “Barnyard Trio”, and about twenty vegans. The events were posted on Boston Raw Food Meetup and Boston Vegan Meetup.